User Post: My Mom Was Fat and So Was I!

My name is Jaylene Welch, I am 42 years old and was over 100 pounds overweight...but I changed all of that by changing my mind!

We've all had one in our life, a time when you are put to the test.  When things just seem to keep going wrong and you find yourself spinning out of control.  My spin cycle lasted almost 2 years. My oldest was married with kids already and my two youngest were cutting the apron strings and I found myself feeling very lost.  I was a 39-year-old woman who had no idea what my purpose was in life.  I had been sexually abused as a young girl and had never been dealt with it.  I was  more depressed then I would even admit.  I was the "Queen Of Denial" going about my life smiling, pretending like everything was fine, that I was happy and carefree, but on the inside I was crying, I needed some help. 

You see I have been obese since I was a teenager.  My Mother has been severely obese my entire life.  She is your classic yo-yo dieter.   I can't even begin to list all of the diets she has tried.  The whole time I was growing up she was always worried about my weight.  She would constantly tell me "Don't get fat like me."  She was so worried that I would end up like her that she started me on the yo-yo diets too. At the time I was 5'2" and weighed around 130 pounds.  Her constant worries about my weight led me to think that I was already fat and it just wrecked my self-esteem and I started the same pattern of yo-yo dieting.  I remember at 11 years old going on the Cabbage Soup diet.  I even resorted to having my jaw wired shut once.  None of it worked, I would take the weight off and then gain it back.  Then I just quit trying altogether.  I blamed my obesity on genetics my mom was fat and so was I.

Then came a chance encounter with a stranger that changed my life.  I had tagged along with my sister as she ran her very first half marathon.  While I was there she introduced me to a wonderful woman named De'Anna Nunez, little did any of us know that she would become the catalyst for complete change in my life from that day forward.  De'Anna Nunez is a professional Hypnotherapist, Certified Fitness Nutrition Specialist, NLP Practitioner, spirited fitness enthusiast and the founder of a program called The Mind Body Fit Club.  It was during one of my sister's half marathons that De'Anna invited us to listen to what she calls a "Burn Your Fat Pants" event.  I sat there and listened to her speak about her program; it was not your usual eat less and move more speech.  She was talking about her own struggles and how she was able to overcome them by getting to the bottom of what was eating at her.  She talked about being programmed by your life experiences and how your own negative self-thoughts are put there by others when you are young.  This sounded oh so familiar to me.  She explained to us about what she calls Sub-Conscious Integration and how she uses it to boost your self esteem, help you to make healthier eating choices and motivates you to exercise.  I heard her words and I thought I CAN do this!  I went home and ordered her program.  When it arrived I immediately started listening the CD's and within a few weeks I began noticing that I was actually paying attention to what I ate, and I was exercising more.

Part of the program consisted of journaling what I ate and answering a daily "Soul Question."  The soul questions led me to the bottom of a lot of my bad eating habits and it wasn't until I started healing my head that I began to recognize how much I use food to "feel" better when I was upset.  Now I see that I have always been a stress eater or boredom binger, and exercise was a foreign word in my vocabulary.  I laugh when I look back and I remember sitting in a counseling session and telling my therapist that I was only exercising to make my husband happy.  It was like the more I cleared my head of all those bad memories the better I felt, and the better I felt, the better I wanted to feel.  I was happy and some where along the way I went from exercising to make my husband happy to exercising because I realized that it was also part of my therapy.  I was doing something for myself for a change. The Mind Body Fit Club had taught me better ways to deal with my stress rather then eating, and they encouraged me to "Step out of my Comfort Zone" and try new things. 

A year ago I thought running a block would kill me, and those who could were some kind of hero's.  But one day I decided that it was time to quit listening to those voices who told me that I couldn't run.  I began by just running short distances, like to the next light post.  Then I went form running to the next light post to running to the end of the block, then two, and three until I finally ran one full mile without stopping.  I will NEVER forget that day!  I was so proud of myself, I wanted to cry.  I have gone on to run many more miles since then.  I have run two 5ks, two 10ks, three 15ks, 4 Sprint Triathlons, 2 half marathons!  Never in my wildest dreams did I think I could do that. I also learned how to fuel my body for my training, I eat for energy now, not to "feel better."  I practice portion control and have tried to cut out all processed food if possible. I eat every 3 or 4 hours, I eat a protein and a vegetable with every meal. I rarely eat carbs like bread or pasta, but if I do I make sure its a "Whole Wheat".

My weight loss journey began on May 1st, 2010 and since that time I have gained a lot, I have gained self-confidence, I have gained determination, I have gained many new fit friends, and in gaining all those things I have lost over 100 pounds!  My name is Jaylene, I am perfectly imperfect, beautiful in my flaws, chaotic, fearless, a beautiful disaster, try and bring me down, I will rise to the top, say I am wrong, I will prove I'm right, tell me I can't, I'll show you I can!

Before Weight: 227

After Weight: 122!!

Here is a video of my year long transformation:

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